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3 Crazy Things You Did not Know About Fishing for Compliments

One day, the fleet-footed god Mercury decided to learn whether mankind still held him in high regard.

Disguising himself as a commoner, he went into a sculptor’s studio and examined the statues on display.

“How much for this statue of Jupiter?” Mercury asked.

“That’s one of my inferior works” the sculptor replied. “You can have it for one drachma.”

“How much for that statue of Juno over there in the corner?”

“That’s one of my favourite works,” said the sculptor. “My asking price is three drachmas”

The god then saw a statue of himself. Now, Mercury was the source of all important communiques from the gods, so he thought his statue would command an exceptionally high price.

So he said “What a beautiful piece of artwork!” he remarked. “How much for this statue of Mercury?”

“Friend,” the sculptor replied with a smile, ” I want to make you one of my loyal, long-term customers so I am willing to make you a bargain. Pay me the prices I quoted you on the Jupiter and Juno statues, and I will throw this one in for free”. Aesop

What You Don't Know About Fishing For Compliments-min

Everyone loves a compliment. Who doesn’t like to be praised and adored. Who doesn’t want to be honoured. So it is not surprising that Mercury wanted to see how much he was valued by humanity.

Your self esteem is very much important. Feeling good about yourself is a wonderful experience. In fact, compliments have been known to aid a healthy lifestyle. So having other people voice out how wonderful, beautiful and awesome you are is even a big plus.

However, things become interesting when you begin to fish for compliments. 

Do you know that certain significant events are taking place in your world when you keep fishing for compliments?

Do you know that your crave for praise and compliment, though genuine,  can cause a drastic effect and shape your world in ways you never imagined?

If you don’t think so, here are 3 Crazy Things You did not know about Fishing for Compliments:

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You Are Hurting Your Relationships

The more you keep fishing for compliments, the more you appear to be old and needy.

When you constantly seek the validation of others to feel worthy and happy, you constantly put pressure on your family,  friends, colleagues and loved ones to make you feel happy. 

Too much of everything isn’t good so what turns out to be be sweet and awesome, turns into hatred and disdain.

Isn’t it strange that your loved ones have to be stretched to make you feel loved or your happiness and joy is tied to how others feel about you?? 

What You Should Know

Love is never forceful. Happiness isn’t external.  You don’t need the validation of others to be significant. You don’t need the permission of others to feel worthy.

Remember, you ain’t awesome because people say you are awesome. You are awesome because that is just whom you are. It is a fact so why do you keep fishing for more compliments?

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You are Hurting Your Self Esteem

How do you think the Mercury god felt when the sculptor made him realise how much he was worth? 

Innocently, the Sculptor was trying to make Mercury his loyal customer without realising whom his customer was?

Something about the Mercury god, gives you a clue about you right?

If you can’t be happy or feel good about yourself without hearing from others.  You can’t do the best at work without someone saying that you did a good job or you need the compliments of others to feel loved, then you are hurting your self esteem.

When you hurt your self esteem, you are hurting your existence.  You are making your thoughts lie about you.

What You Should Know

Each time you seek for validation, you give power to others to define your existence. You give them permission to write your own story

You are special because you have so much inside to make a difference. Your existence lights your world and you matter to your generation.

By being you, there are people whose lives you will definitely change for the better. 

Most Often Your Praises and Compliments Come Away Empty-Handed

 A Person shopping for compliments often comes away empty-handed. Aesop Click To Tweet

Do you know that fishing for more compliments doesn’t make you feel better about yourself?

Think about it! That is the more reason why you seek more compliments

The more compliments you seek, the more you become addicted to hearing more compliments.

Sooner or later, your compliments will become so empty. You don’t trust in them any more because they are not enough. So you seek for more compliments and compliments.

What You Should Know

Standing on the shoulders of compliments to make a difference in your life is limiting yourself plus your existence.

You are powerful beyond measure which is why compliments should never replace your inner drivers ( Passion, Purpose and  God-given Gifts)

Over To You

What are the reasons you need to fish for compliments?  What do you think about this issue? Share your comments below. Light a dark candle

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2 thoughts on “3 Crazy Things You Did not Know About Fishing for Compliments”

  1. Hi Ikechi,

    Wonderful post indeed 🙂

    You are so right about all that you mentioned – being humans, we all love compliments, and yes, we do fish for them too. I guess that’s human nature. However, as you rightly mentioned, it can have its drawbacks too.

    I agree about affecting the relationships. Some family and friend’s may just compliment you because you like them, even though they don’t really mean what they say. So, those are false compliments in a way- not really meant from the heart, isn’t it? Thus, when they really wish to compliment you, I wonder how it would be taken!

    We need to believe in ourselves and not wait for compliments to remind us we are good, isn’t it? Keep doing good and the good comes back to you, sooner or later. Even if it doesn’t, at least you have done your bit of Karma, that’s what I believe in. And if during all this time, someone compliments you, thank them, but don’t let it affect you, nor wait for the compliments and do work just for seeking compliments, which again some people do!

    Thanks for sharing. Happy weekend 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena

      You know I was searching for your comment and I thought it had gone to spam.

      You are right about how fishing for compliments affect relationships. I do believe love ones go through so much pressure when they are beseeched with having to reply to needy compliments.

      This is why we need to understand that our self worth matters. No one has the permission to determine one’s worth because it is from within. Thanks for sharing. Have a wonderful week.

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