Nobody likes to be Loser; not certainly You
The thought of people seeing you as a failure. The thought of people using you to acknowledge their accomplishments, makes you feel like you are so worthless.
How could they do this to you? How could they compare you with themselves?
However, no matter how hard you try, you can’t just grasp success. It seems like no matter what you do, you attract bad luck to yourself.
What seems easy for others, looks more like well wishing for you.
You have become frustrated with your positive thinking because it has gone crazy and has produced no result. You have tried all the personal development techniques but nothing is working.
So you have come to accept the life of a loser. Why bother when there is nothing more you can do.
But what if you knew that being a loser is the gateway to success. What if you knew that you can be an influence even though you are tagged a loser.
Are you in doubt? Here is how being a loser makes you an influence:
You Get to Write Your Own Culture
Did you know that people are tagged losers based on norms and culture?
Now there was a time when success was based on the number of wives and farmlands one had at his disposal.
There was a time when one was tagged successful because he acquired a University degree.
There was a time when one was successful if he could speak so many languages apart from his native tongue.
Culture has always tagged success in so many forms. So where does this leave you?
Bizarre or awkward, Culture has in a way influenced the measure of success. It has somehow ingrained into the mind of people, those who are an influence and those who are not.
But here is the thing, what shapes Culture and Norms is simply You. You shape Culture in ways that you never imagined. No culture or norm has ever existed on its own and that is because you make the difference.
Though it seems that Society might have created a standard for success. You are beyond this limitation as you get to write your own story and create your own Culture.
You are the criteria for how Culture turns out. You shape what is “losing” and what is “winning”.
So get on with your life and write you own story; write your winning culture
You Get to Use Losing as a Stepping Stone to Make a Difference
Do you know that your sense of losing is all wrong?
Everything that you have known about losing; everything thing that you have come to accept as the concept of losing is plain wrong,
Yes this is true and that is because all winners were at one time losers.
How is this possible and what do I mean by winners being losers?
Have you ever believed that winning and losing is a destination? If you have ever thought so, you are not alone.
It is no wonder when you are faced with a little failure, you have no choice but to give in to depression.
It is your perception of losing that matters. It is your attitude towards losing that has made you feel that you have got nothing to offer.
Time to put your mindset in the right direction and make a difference.
Now you have the opportunity to put losing in the right perspective. You get to see your challenges and circumstances in a different angel.
No matter the situation! No matter the challenges, you can make a difference while losing.
As you keep losing and learning, your success becomes shortened. You gather enough information to keep getting better.
“Develop Success From Failures. Discouragement and Failures are two of the Surest Stepping stones to Success”. Dale Carnegie
You Get to be a Source of Liberation
Let’s face it! Your deepest fear isn’t that you are inadequate; your deepest fear isn’t that you are a loser and have nothing to offer. What you can come to terms is that you are powerful beyond measure.
You keep comparing yourself with others and making your endowed ability look small. You keep holding on to your self imposed standards and seeking the validation of your uniqueness from others
Isn’t it Strange that you seek the validation of others to show that your Story makes an impact?
There are people who you inspire and whose lives would not be complete without your existence. These people become liberated just by your existence.
By overcoming your challenges, you give others the power to build up courage, to overcome their limitations, to live their dreams and be a difference.
By making a difference, you give light to the Dark Candles. When you provide value, you give others a purpose bigger than what they never imagined.
Over to You
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