3 Crazy Things You Don’t Know When Your Self Worth is Determined by Others

 “ I am so sorry. I will do anything you want”. Lilian apologized to Larry in public. 

Earlier in the day, Lilian had tried to talk to Larry on Facebook but she could not get through to him. She sent Larry so much text but her chat was just filled with her own message. Lilian decided to post a Message on Larry’s timeline, hoping that it could reach him.

Larry had asked Lilian to post her nude pictures on Facebook to prove her love for him. This request shocked Lilian and with so much rage, she refused to grant such request.

But when Larry did not speak to her for two weeks, Lilian began to worry and soon panicked. She had a rethink of her decision and was ready to do anything for Larry if he could just speak to her just once.

The wisdom of society has always been to compare oneself with others to determine one’s self worth. After all, It is great to be valued by others and this is the most crucial aspect of life

But what if you knew that by seeking approval from others. you are gambling with your self worth.

What if you knew that you are diminishing the inherent worth of yourself when you measure yourself based on external actions. Don’t believe me!!

Here are 3 Crazy Things you did not know When Your Self Worth is Determined by Others

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People Have the Power to Determine Your Worth

You are worried about how people feel about you so much that you bend to their will.

You feel safe being an impostor and you had rather get along with others than stay true to yourself. The thought of being you is a nuisance and it is better to make others happy  while you are lost in yourself.

What you should know is that you have given others the power to steer your life. You just sold the patent of your essence for others to profit from your existence.

Henceforth, you don’t have control over your abilities and you just became a tool to be used by others.

You just sold the patent of your essence for others to profit from your existence. Click To Tweet

READ MORE: 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Your Sense of Identity

You are Going to Work Extra Hard to Fit in

Rather than stand out, you are going to spend most of your time trying to fit in.

You have the backing of your Competitive Culture which already believes that you have to be above others to feel special.

Not everyone is going to like you even though you have done so much to fake it. You are going to need constant approval to make a difference in your world.

Even though you manage to feel self-esteem for one golden moment, you won’t be able to hold on to it.

Your sense of self-worth will bounce around like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lock-step with your latest success or failure.

Why are you trying so hard to fit in

Who Has the Right to Validate Your Worth?

With so much you have achieved in getting others to validate you, have you ever thought about if they have the right to validate your worth?

Isn’t it strange that you hand over your worth to people who don’t have the permission to determine your value?

Doesn’t it look weird that you seek for others to see you as special when it is hard for anyone to produce a bit of your DNA?

Why do you work so hard to be acknowledged for your abilities, when all you are doing is just being yourself?

READ MORE: Who Would You Be if The World Never Gave You an Identity

Doesn't it look weird that you seek for others to see you as special when it is hard for anyone to produce a bit of your DNA? Click To Tweet


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4 thoughts on “3 Crazy Things You Don’t Know When Your Self Worth is Determined by Others”

  1. Hi Ikechi,

    Good to be here again 🙂

    No, I don’t think that it’s okay to let others determine my self-worth. It’s okay to pay heed to criticisms with a positive mind, listen to suggestions, and take advice from others for improving your own self. But seeking validation and depending on others for building your self-worth is a big No. Yes, it’s true that people do give in when they have low self-esteem and self-confidence. The way out is to love yourself and believe in yourself.

    I really appreciate that you wrote this post, which I’m sure will help many people. Thanks for sharing it with us. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena

      It is so good to see you and thank you so much for the awesome feedback

      Yes I do agree that we should not put down the advice we get from others. However, seeking your worth from others has no benefit. Thank you so much. Take care

  2. Hi Nkechi.
    This is a great post. Some beleive I am been proud when I say nobody is like me. I mean no two of me. Infact that is one of the many reasons God is God. I refuse to be fixed into other people’s mold as no one will give account of how I spend God’s resources He built in me.
    I strongly belief the thouhest thing to be is trying to be like other while, the easiest thing to be is being yourself. I hope to come up with a guest post sometime if you will welcome that.
    Once again keep up the good work

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