Self esteem is the live blood of beauty. We would like to maintain self confidence in spite of any situation. Unfortunately there will always come a time when our confidence will be tested; it’s one of nature’s challenge.
There are a lot of quick boosters to self esteem on the Web which gives you tips on how to increase your self confidence but I am taking the contrarian path. I will be looking at 8 ways of destroying your self esteem.
Before I begin, I will like you to know that the reason I am doing this is for their to be a balance. As much as you will like to boost your self esteem, it also good to be aware and warned of how you can destroy it.
So lets begin:
Being Too Comfortable
Yes I said and its not what you think. Being comfortable is nice and cool; it makes you enjoy life and there is no stress but then it puts you in a state that is not healthy. With time if not checked, you become too comfortable and are not willing to move forward.
You become satisfied with where you are and are unwilling to leave that comfort zone and little by little, you destroy your self esteem.
Action: Step outside your comfort zone.
Being Right all the time
It’s nice to be right all the time; If you were working in the Stock Market, you will make millions or if you were a scientist, hmmmm there is sure to be a Nobel price coming your way. The sad truth is that it does not happen; failure is bound to hit you one day and if you don’t learn how to tackle failure and move on, then be ready for Self esteem crash.
Action: Learn to face failure head on; fail and learn as fast as you can.
Wanting others to make you happy
If you think this is strange, i have seen this type of behaviour occur in relationships, friendships and even marriage. Happiness is an emotion that comes from within. So if you decide not to be happy, no one can make you happy and when no one can make you happy, you going to damage your esteem real bad.
Action: Learn to be happy that’s all you need to know.
Scared of Failing
Some people are so scared of failing that they are not willing to try at all. They go as far as making excuses as why this or that will not work out. Staying in the status quo might seem reasonable but Self esteem does not think so. You are destroying him faster than you think. Why? because self esteem needs failure to grow.
Action: It does not matter how many times you fail as long as you take a step forward
Being Frustrated all the time
Had a bad day at work? or maybe that idea did not go as planned. When you allow your frustration get to your nerve. It can affect your self confidence.
Action: Ease off from frustration or better still laugh at your frustration. Sounds funny right, how did you feel.
Worry over what people think of you
Thanks to The internet and Social media, we constantly being bombarded with personality issues. The worst you can do to your self image is to bother yourself over what people think about you. So you are skinny, fat, a nerd, geek, nice or whatever they call you. Give it a thought one second and watch your self esteem plummet.
Action: Don’t be bothered by what people think about you.
Being Someone else
You want to be like Him or Her. You wish you could live his life. This kind of wish is very popular. Psychology has a name for it; its called Celebrity Disorder. We are so much moved by status and the strange part is some people go as far as trying to live the life of celebrities. It awkward and damaging to your self confidence.
Action: Do yourself a favour and be yourself
Denying who you are
For me this is quickest way to damage your self esteem. By denying who you are, you are denying your existence, your destiny and purpose and no self esteem is going to survive in that kind of condition; it’s like living without breathing air and you know what happens next.
Action: You are special; You are unique and there is no one that can be you. People are waiting to be blessed by you. So don’t disappoint them. be you; go out and achieve your purpose.
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