“ I am so sorry. I will do anything you want”. Lilian apologized to Larry in public.
Earlier in the day, Lilian had tried to talk to Larry on Facebook but she could not get through to him. She sent Larry so much text but her chat was just filled with her own message. Lilian decided to post a Message on Larry’s timeline, hoping that it could reach him.
Larry had asked Lilian to post her nude pictures on Facebook to prove her love for him. This request shocked Lilian and with so much rage, she refused to grant such request.
But when Larry did not speak to her for two weeks, Lilian began to worry and soon panicked. She had a rethink of her decision and was ready to do anything for Larry if he could just speak to her just once.
The wisdom of society has always been to compare oneself with others to determine one’s self worth. After all, It is great to be valued by others and this is the most crucial aspect of life
But what if you knew that by seeking approval from others. you are gambling with your self worth.
What if you knew that you are diminishing the inherent worth of yourself when you measure yourself based on external actions. Don’t believe me!!
Here are 3 Crazy Things you did not know When Your Self Worth is Determined by Others
People Have the Power to Determine Your Worth
You are worried about how people feel about you so much that you bend to their will.
You feel safe being an impostor and you had rather get along with others than stay true to yourself. The thought of being you is a nuisance and it is better to make others happy while you are lost in yourself.
What you should know is that you have given others the power to steer your life. You just sold the patent of your essence for others to profit from your existence.
Henceforth, you don’t have control over your abilities and you just became a tool to be used by others.
You are Going to Work Extra Hard to Fit in
Rather than stand out, you are going to spend most of your time trying to fit in.
You have the backing of your Competitive Culture which already believes that you have to be above others to feel special.
Not everyone is going to like you even though you have done so much to fake it. You are going to need constant approval to make a difference in your world.
Even though you manage to feel self-esteem for one golden moment, you won’t be able to hold on to it.
Your sense of self-worth will bounce around like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lock-step with your latest success or failure.
Who Has the Right to Validate Your Worth?
With so much you have achieved in getting others to validate you, have you ever thought about if they have the right to validate your worth?
Isn’t it strange that you hand over your worth to people who don’t have the permission to determine your value?
Doesn’t it look weird that you seek for others to see you as special when it is hard for anyone to produce a bit of your DNA?
Why do you work so hard to be acknowledged for your abilities, when all you are doing is just being yourself?
OVER TO YOU
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